Massage or sex – what exactly happens in Tantra?

Tantra, what was that again? It sounds a bit exotic, but also somehow like Aunt Erna. Anyway, it has something to do with sex. But that’s what only esoterics do, right? If you have similar thoughts in your mind when you hear the word Tantra, you’ve come to the right place. Nothing is misinterpreted as much as Tantra – there is much more behind the spiritual teaching than most people think.

In short: Tantra is a lustful practice originating from India, with which you can perceive your body and mind more consciously and discover your own sexuality anew by combining sensuality with spirituality. How this works, which practices and rituals belong to it and how Tantra stimulates lust, we explain here:

In this article:

  • What is a Tantra Massage?
  • What is a Tantra massage about?
  • Ecstasy, what was it again?
  • How exactly does a Tantra massage work?
  • Do you really need a Tantra workshop for this?
  • How much does a Tantra massage cost?
  • How are the genitals massaged?
  • How can Tantra improve sex?
  • Tantra workshops and seminars
  • What is Tantra Yoga?
  • Can Tantra strengthen a relationship?

What is a Tantra Massage?

Many people think of Tantra as a small room in which people roll naked on mats and mountains of pillows and massage each other, which eventually degenerates into violent group sex. However, the extensive art of kneading is not as pornographic as many people imagine a Tantra massage to be.

Tantra massage is a respectful massage ritual in which the entire body is touched and massaged in a harmonious and natural way – yes, even in the intimate area. Do you always have sex with the tantric masseur afterwards? No, not necessarily. Unless this is intended, for example because he is your partner. Then of course you can do whatever you want with each other.

Even an orgasm is not necessarily on the agenda during the intimate massage. If you have one – great. If not: Don’t worry about it, because this is also completely normal. Because it’s much more about the spiritual level and about expanding your consciousness.

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You can only reach this level, however, if you get your sexual energies flowing. During orgasm sexual energy unfolds and can be used much more effectively than simply discharging it during a climax. The goal is: Learn to consciously perceive your sexual energy and thus get to know a completely new side of your sexuality. Sexual therapist and Tantra trainer Michaela Riedl knows: “Nothing conveys devotion as well as the tantric art of touch.

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What is a Tantra massage about?

Mostly about sexual energy. Because during sex not only a lot of hormones are released, according to the Tantra teachings sexual energy also flows. According to Tantra, this energy can especially fire up lust and take you to higher dimensions – up to ecstasy.

However, to do this you must learn to redirect this energy and make the 7 main chakras flow. Chakras are the so-called energy centres of the body. They are located along the spine and regulate the energy flow in the body. Through tantra massage and special breathing exercises you make them flow. Et voilá: Ecstasy.

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“Many people are interested in experiencing a positive body feeling”, says Riedl. But also emotions that lie dormant deep within you can come up during a Tantra massage. Crying is therefore not a rare reaction. Of course not because the massage causes physical pain, but because unconscious or suppressed feelings suddenly dissolve. However, most women experience the massage as a soothing, sensual experience and can really let themselves go.

Ecstasy, what is it?

Complete ecstasy is a loss of control, a chandelier life that goes beyond normal consciousness. A moment in which you lose yourself completely and let yourself fall completely. You feel how the lust spreads throughout your entire body and becomes more and more intense in waves. Your mind cannot be distracted by anything, you feel freed from worries, everyday stress, pressure to perform and the expectations of others.

In this rushing moment of happiness you only perceive yourself and your body, which usually ends with an explosive orgasm that makes your whole body shake from head to toe. Some women even begin to tremble during this intense pleasure experience.

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How exactly does a Tantra massage work?

Those who have already experienced one or the other massage will be surprised by the intensity and length of a Tantra massage. Before the massage even begins, there is a preliminary talk with the masseur or masseuse. By the way, it does not matter whether the massage is given by a woman or a man. It will be discussed whether you have physical, physical or sexual complaints and you can exclude individual applications in advance.

It is also a good opportunity to build up trust and sympathy before things get going.

In order for you to be able to open up and let yourself fall completely during the massage, you should feel particularly comfortable in the room. Shame and distrust are completely out of place here. Once you are calm and relaxed, the massage begins. You will be massaged from head to toe with warm oil. As a rule, the masseur starts with a full body massage and only at the end is it the intimate area’s turn. Sex? Wrong!

The complete massage, including a preliminary and follow-up discussion in which you and the masseur reflect on the last hours, takes 2 to 4 hours. It is important that you bring a lot of time with you, because hecticness should not arise during a Tantra massage.

How much does a Tantra massage cost?

The prices for a tantric massage vary depending on the provider and duration and are between 250 and 1000 Euros. An expensive pleasure, yes. But in return you will be massaged everywhere for up to 4 hours.

But one thing is clear: If you do not necessarily insist on a professional massage and/or do not like to be massaged in the genital area by a stranger, a Tantra massage from your own partner is the much cheaper option. However, before he simply massages you should inform yourself in advance through appropriate reading, seminars or workshops. Another option: You look for a Tantra masseur as your partner. But this is really your thing.

Most people think of sex first when they think of Tantra. It’s not about sex. Nevertheless you can achieve orgasm during a Tantra massage. © g-stockstudio /

How are the genitals massaged during a Tantra massage?

There are two variants, one for the female sex (yoni), and one for the male sex (lingam).

The Yoni Massage

Yoni stands for the female sexual organ and as the name suggests, the masseur pays special attention to the female genital area during the yoni massage. The focus here is clearly on the vagina. The inner and outer labia, the mons pubis, the anus, the clitoris and the G-spot are massaged. In addition to the pleasant stimulation, the Yoni Massage is suitable for releasing tension and pressure – because just as you can have a tense back, blockages can also form in your intimate area.

Before you get involved in this intimate encounter, you can inform yourself about the Yoni Massage with appropriate literature. The Book Yoni Massage by Michaela Riedl shows women a new approach to their femininity, to greater vitality and lust. The book is also suitable for men and a way to learn more about the female body.

The Lingam Massage

Not only women benefit from the sensual massage – men also get their money’s worth through practiced tantra hand movements. The male version of a Tantra massage revolves around the lingam, the male sexual area. During the lingam massage the penis, testicles, anus and prostate are massaged alternately, which is supposed to put the man into a physical intoxication.

Men are also said to be able to have multiple orgasms if they control their sexual energy through their chakras. This also pays off in other areas: Once he gets the hang of it, he can have sex for hours without coming.

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Do I need a Tantra workshop before a Tantra massage?

According to Riedl it is not necessary to attend a workshop before a professional tantric massage. The tantra masseur performs the massage, there is nothing for you to do except to say if something does not feel good. Nevertheless it makes sense to know approximately what is coming up.

You should know these Tantra-Basics before your first massage:

  1. The whole body is touched and massaged – even the genital area.
  2. You and the masseur are both completely naked during the massage.
  3. Yes, you may touch the masseur.
  4. No, sex with the masseur is out of the question.
  5. The masseur determines the course of the treatment, but you can exclude individual applications in advance.

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Can a Tantra massage improve sex?

And how! Especially for women Tantra can change a lot for the better. Women often experience for the first time in a Tantra massage that it is all about them and that they are not just a “vicarious agent” for male wishes of satisfaction. Sexuality can be more than just the glue of a relationship. “They experience, often under tears, a comprehensive appreciation of their body and their femininity, independent of their outer appearance”, says Michaela Riedl.

Some women even experience vaginal orgasms, full body orgasms or ejaculation.

What is important for a Tantra massage?

The atmosphere plays an extremely important role. Both must feel comfortable. Relaxed music on, candles and pleasantly smelling massage oil help to create a pleasant atmosphere of well-being.

For a full body massage Riedl recommends pure coconut oil, for the intimate massage a good lubricant and to pamper yourself the caring yoni cream from Rosenzaepfchen.

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Tantra workshops and seminars

Curious? Then grab your partner and attend a Tantra seminar. There you will learn how to pamper each other with the spiritual art of massage and other pleasurable practices of Tantra. These trainings are very instructive, but unfortunately also damn expensive. A workshop can quickly cost around 700 euros.

What is Tantra Yoga?

If you now believe that in Tantra Yoga all the postures of the Kamasutra are tried, we must disappoint you. Of course all kinds of yoga will make you more flexible, but Tantra Yoga, or more precisely Kundulani Yoga, has rather less to do with sex. Instead it has to do with the sexual energy that slumbers inside every woman and wants to be awakened.

Through Prayanamas, breathing exercises that you repeat during a yoga session, your chakras are opened and your energy centres are brought into balance. Tantra Yoga not only brings you to more self-love through the new self-awareness, but also ensures that deeply rooted fears can be released. The German Academy for Traditional Yoga offers Tantra courses in which you will be professionally introduced to Tantra Yoga.

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Can Tantra strengthen a relationship?

Definitely! During the Tantra practices you and your partner give each other a lot of attention and trust, which strengthens your bond as a couple. You open up to each other and thereby get closer to each other not only physically but also mentally.

Besides, there is nothing wrong with bringing a little bit of variety into your usual love life. Tearing your clothes off and falling over each other is not as exciting as it used to be.

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Tantra is not esoteric nonsense. Those who devote themselves to the practices openly and without frowning can get to know their sexuality in a completely new way. Every good relationship can use new adventures in bed from time to time – and you don’t want to miss the chance of an ecstatic orgasm, do you?