How to find the perfect vibrator

Probably some women who have never used a sextoy to masturbate wonder why they should do it at all. The simple answer is: Because it’s fun! But there are even more benefits:

  • Getting to know your own preferences: Sextoys are the easiest way to test which movements and stimuli trigger which feelings in your body.
  • Testing new things: You don’t know if anal sex is really your thing? Try it with an anal vibrator!
  • Orgasm booster: There are now even studies (e.g. from Northwestern University in Illinois) that say that women who use a vibrator for masturbation reach climaxes more easily than non-users.

Okay, so there are plenty of advantages. But which toy should end up in your shopping cart? Here you will find an overview of the hottest models and purchase advice.

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Which vibrator suits me?

But which model should you choose in the dildo jungle? Not an easy task for someone who has had little or no contact with sex toys so far. Jana Hack is Head of Product Management and toy tester at eis.de and advised us on the question of the right toy.

You should ask yourself these questions before buying a vibrator:

1. what should my vibrator do?

First and foremost, you should ask yourself what exactly you want to focus on during sex with your new vibrator. Would you rather stimulate your clitoris or the G-spot? Maybe even both at the same time? Do you always masturbate in the same way or do you love variety? Do you want to take it with you into the bathtub or does it have to be small enough for your handbag?

“A few more possibilities than ‘an’ and ‘aus’ may have the vibration function on toys,” says Jana Hack, “To just press a button in the middle of action to let new waves of lust spill over your body, that’s luxury. But whether you really need about 100 vibration programs, I doubt. No one can keep up.”

These are the most common types of vibrators:

Classic vibrators: vaginal fun

Vibratoren Cirro, Patchy Paul und James Love Classic, practical, good: The “Cirro”, the “Patchy Paul” and the “James Love Vibrator” (from left) © Manufacturer / WH

A real perennial favorite among sex toys is the vibrator in phallus form. Well tried and tested things last a long time.

What is stimulated? Especially the inside of the vagina. But such a rod vibrator can be used in many ways: clitoris, anus and breasts can also be delighted with it.

Suitable for whom? A classic vibrator finds room in any bedside drawer. But especially sextoy beginners benefit from the versatility of the toy and its intuitive operation.

Tip: G-spot vibrators, such as the green Patchy Paul, easily reach the hotspot inside the vagina thanks to their curved tip.

Which models are recommended?

Lay-on vibrators: Clitoral explosions

Satisfyer, Womanizer and Laya II Satisfyer, Womanizer and Laya II (from left) were a revolution for female masturbation © Manufacturer / WH

Those who prefer to leave the penetration to a human being and are more likely to achieve clitoral orgasms should use a lay-on vibrator.

What is stimulated? The clitoris. Either by vibration (Laya II ) or by shock waves (Womanizer& Satisfyer). In the latter case, the clitoris is gently sucked in and then stimulated by pulsating and completely contactless waves.

Suitable for whom? For women who otherwise have difficulty achieving orgasm. Or for all those who want to experience the solo pleasure in a way that is perfectly suited to the female body.

Tip from expert Jana Hack: It is essential to take a pressure wave vibrator with you into the bathtub! Here the waves are even more intense.

Which models are recommended?

Combination vibrators: Double the pleasure

The Womanizer DUO the skipper and the Satisfyer G-Spot Rabbit Best of both worlds: The Womanizer DUO the skipper and the Satisfyer G-Spot Rabbit (from left) © Manufacturer / WH

You cannot or do not want to choose between vaginal and clitoral stimulation when buying a toy? Fortunately, you don’t have to. Combination vibrators, often called Rabbit Vibrators, can do both.

What is stimulated? Combination vibrators are inserted into the vagina, but can also tickle the clitoris with a teat or vibrating elements.

Suitable for whom? For women who want to try the ultimate orgasm experience.

2. what material should my vibrator be made of?

The material of the vibrator is actually decisive whether we get warm with the good or it disappears forever in the back corner of our bedside drawer. After all, we do not buy a sweater that scratches or that is extremely difficult to clean. We should be similarly choosy with our vibrator.

Vibratoren versetzen uns in wohlige Ekstase A good vibrator belongs in every bedside drawer © SOMKKU / Shutterstock.com

Vibrators are now available in a wide variety of materials such as glass, plastic and even wood, but most are made of silicone. This is a good thing, because this material is skin-friendly, gets warm quickly and transmits vibrations very well. Silicone is also non-porous and can therefore be easily cleaned with soap and water.

“If you want to get to know something new, I recommend toys made of metal or glass. You can put them in the fridge beforehand and on hot days they give us some internal cooling,” says the toy tester.

Whether a vibrator feels good in your hands is ultimately something you can only decide for yourself. To be on the safe side, going to a sex shop is certainly the best option. Here you can take the piece in your hand and even sniff it, whether it smells unpleasant or artificial. Once you have felt how the good piece feels in your hands and at what size you feel good and safe, you will also have a much better feeling if you should finally decide to shop more discreetly online.

3. what should my vibrator look like?

What image do you have in mind when you hear the word “vibrator”? A softly humming, pink silicone dolphin? A flesh-colored, veined penis? Or something else entirely? And must a vibrator necessarily be in the shape of a phallus? “The spectrum ranges from almost frighteningly realistic nature boys to semi-realistic and almost unrecognizable. What is allowed is quite simply what pleases,” says Jana Hack.

As far as size is concerned, the expert advises: “Just take an inconspicuous look at the real thing the next time you have sex and orient yourself to it. If you are still unsure, start small and increase the size if necessary, because the size of a vibrator says nothing about its potential.

Ergo: A vibrator should above all give you a good feeling and not deter you by its shape, size or colour. After all, you let this device get pretty close to you and use it to get sharp and get to the climax. So feel free to be picky.

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For example, if it is important to you that you can leave the piece on the bedside table at times without your mother-in-law looking funny the next time you visit, choose a vibrator that looks absolutely nothing like what it actually is.

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In the meantime, there are several shapes that are more reminiscent of a lipstick or an egg timer. Want an example? The Lelo Ora 2 is an oral sex simulator that looks more like a futuristic sculpture than a sextoy. The pretty chrome and silicone ring mimics the movements of a tongue and makes the whole genital area feel pretty wacky.

4. does the volume of the vibrator play a role?

It should only be loud in bed when you moan with pleasure and not because your sextoy is humming deafeningly. With some models you would be surprised how loud the little things can get. If the volume is similar to that of an electric toothbrush in turbo mode, lust can quickly run away. Usually the buzzing of the vibrator is somewhat muffled by the bedspread. However, if you don’t usually masturbate under a thick duvet, you should definitely consider the volume.

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Manufacturers of high-end devices usually take this factor into account, whereas the cheaper vibrators often have some catching up to do. Therefore, the same applies to the volume: test it out and prick up your ears. If the sound gets on your nerves after half a minute, better leave it alone.

5. how much may my vibrator be?

Wir helfen bei der Suche nach dem perfekten Vibrator How much you spend on your new best friend. you alone decide © sergey causelove / Shutterstock.com

Apart from the fact that this is entirely up to your budget, beginners should perhaps start with a cheaper device to test whether vibrating in the genital area is something for them at all.

The more expensive high-end vibrators are usually around 150 euros, but they can also do a lot and have various additional elements such as a wide range of vibration levels, an extremely good battery life or even the advantage that they are especially quiet or even suitable for the bathtub.

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In the end, buying a vibrator is just like any other purchase: In the end, it’s largely a matter of gut feeling. How good it is that there are many variations of vibrators that have the right button (and brain) for every imaginable mood and desire. Have fun trying them out!